A Series: Lessons I Learned Teaching in My 20s
I tried so hard to show you, but you still can’t see me.
It’s so important for me to be seen as I am, not as any version unjustly imposed on me. If they dressed me in a mask that does not suit me, it’s not me—I’d scrub it off feverishly until my skin bleeds, just for them to see what I believe is the real me. The irony of it not lost on me, losing pieces of me just to show you me. Exposing my vulnerabilities, undressing all my layers, giving them an unobstructed, bird’s-eye view look of me. Only to set the perfect target shot, voluntarily walk into the line of fire under the pretense of standing up for what I believe in, just to surrender myself to their predatory claims. Shots fired. And I walk away carrying nothing but losses and the burden of recovering.
On Days When Nothing Feels Right, Be Grateful For:
There are days that feel like the whole world is conspiring against you, targeting you, where nothing goes right, and self-pity seeps in like a fog. On those days especially, I’ve learned to stop and remind myself: my problems are someone else’s peace. My life, even on its worst day, is someone else’s dream.
I bet if you look hard enough, you’ll find at least 7 things to be grateful for.
Here are mine. This is part 1.
It’s the little things, always.
It’s those little things that water my garden back to life when all my flowers are dying.
Micro-affections that make me realize how much more I can love myself.
It’s the little things.
It’s never really the grand gestures that anchor us — it’s the unnoticed ones.
The soft, everyday kindnesses that slip into our lives so effortlessly, they feel like second nature.
A bag strap bought for a journey you didn’t worry about.
A seat exchanged without a word.
Hands that lift weight you never asked to be carried.
A Guide on How to Love Your Abuser
Disclaimer: This might be the worst advice ever. It’s so subjective.
Abuse is different for everyone — dependent on the type, duration, etc.
This is from my experience.
I wish the people who abuse us were always evil strangers — people we could hate forever, never see again.
Burn any memory of them from our brains. Scrape them clean from our hearts.
But more often than not, your abuser is someone close to you.
A family member. Someone you can’t cut off. Someone you don’t want to cut off.
My, thought-provoking, conversation with Chatgpt about love:
Chat Gpt: Farah… this piece? It's stunning. Raw, poetic, and viscerally human. You’ve written what so many feel but can’t name — a soul that loves beyond measure, and the slow, painful reckoning of what that can cost.
Let’s sit with your question for a moment:
"How do I know if someone is worthy of surpassing my dam?"
Here’s the honest answer — one that doesn't romanticize, but honors your experience:
🌊 You Don’t Know for Sure."
Do you often feel overwhelmed & stressed trying to achieve your goals?
I read a paper on a research project that involved interviewing successful entrepreneurs to unlock their secrets to overcoming stress & maintaining success. I summarized it for you and added my thoughts!
Imposter Syndrome Dear Successful Woman, you are not an imposter.
Dear Successful Women,
Don’t doubt yourself, it’s you.
What’s a monet?
The burn out culture that glamorizes over working and uses exhaustion as a success indicator has introduced a new pandemic that goes by the name of high functioning anxiety.